Set it Sunday 3/28/2010

Set it Sunday!

Set it: My schedual as most of you guys know is pretty hectic. I haven't been very well in the delivering out the Set it Sunday tasks dept, however it is a new Sunday. A new week to accomplish new things. Very excited, and here are my goals, along with my schedual.

I have to:

~Go to school to withdraw from my classes before the 31st

~Go to a fire safety meeting at 2pm Tuesday before my shift

~Go to the movies with R and Pickle

~Call my divorce attorney

~Clean the upstairs

~Start studying for the nursing entrance exams

Monday: Work 3 to 11:30

Go to school to withdraw from classes

Call lawyer to see when my hubs will be served

Clean upstairs

Laudry

Tuesday: Pick up Pickle from school

Work 3-11:30

Wednesday: Off from work

Study while Pickle is at school for NET

Take pickle to school and pick up

Go to R's house and go to movies with him and Pickle

Thursday: Take and pick up Pickle from school

Study while Pickle is at school

Work 3-11:30

Friday: Off from work

 Take and pick up Pickle from school

Study while Pickle is at school

Spend the day with Pickle

Yoga

Saturday: Pickle leaves at noon to go to her dads

Work 3-11:30

Yoga

Not very much room for excitement but this is my basic life lately. There might hopefully be a coffee in there with a friend or something like that. I don't know why I decided to publish my whole weeks schedual on the internet for anyone to see, but I think I need this to keep me responsible for what I need to do since other people know I am doing it.

I am still trying to make sure I eat healthier, it's a little hard because its so much easier to skip packing a lunch for work and then just drive a block down from work to Wendy's. But I am drinking more fluids, which was one of my set it goals, I am also not buying anymore cigarettes because the lawyer fees for my divorce are so high. Haven't divulged any info about my divorce yet, but I will write another post to go over it more, just to go through all the things in my head and figure out if paying over 4 grand for a lawyer is worth it.

Set it Sunday 3/21/10

Another Sunday is here! It's amazing how time flies s fast when you are a full time employee among mom, friend, girlfriend, and yada yada.

This past week I have basically not accomplished a single thing I set out to do. Sorry Cheryl, I most definetly had bettter intentions when I came up with my week to do list. So..basically I am going forward with last weeks Set It with the same tasks assigned

Coffee

What is it about coffee that makes people go to a little store called Starbucks to spend close to $5 for their large cup. The long lines, the notorious coffee places shown in movies, is it just our pop culture has evolved into an obsessed world of over priced coffee?

Starbucks is a great place for me to stop, especially Barnes and Noble with their free wifi. I can even remember my first time at Starbucks. I was spending the day with a friend in Manhattan, we went shopping to different stores like H&M, Banana Republic (mind you it was 2001, so I was a sophmore in high school), and of course Starbucks. I remember walking in looking at the board above the baristas and having absolutely no clue what to order, the sizes I couldn't pronounce, so luckily my friend ordered the White Chocolate Mocha. I followed suite and I was in love. I am the kind of person that doesn't like to venture out and try new things if I know something is good, so I guess I have the usual at every place I go.

Years later, I still order the WCM, which is funny because my boyfriend is so picky and lets me suprise him with what I order for him when he can't decide what to get. Of course this is my chance to order something outlandish that I think he could possibly like, which gives me the chance to sneak a sip. :-)

I am also a lover of the Passion fruit tea, sometimes I have it sweeten, sometimes not. I also love the Mocha chip. But am I always heading over there to endulge in these drinks? No! I am on a tighter budget, even though I am spending more on frivolous items, I have stops the coffee run;-s. I have noticed usually I am in high Starbucks mode around exam times, especially final time! I remember one day last semester stopping for 3 venti's. It's a crazy life but it's mine :-)

Set it Sunday

or rather Monday at 2:46 am

Last Sunday I set the two goals of quitting smoking, and cleaning the upstairs. I did not quit, bought a pack today, and cleaned at least Haylies room, which is a good accomplishment. Even better it has stayed clean.

This Set it Sunday includes these goals:

1. Clean my bedroom

2. Go to the Metro PCS store so they can fix my brand new Samsung Code phone

3. Get nails done at salon

4. Do yoga 3-4 times this week

5. Write 3-4 blog posts

6. Try to change sleep schedual to go to sleep before 2 am

7. Drink more liquids and take multivitamin daily.

8. Organize photo albums on my laptop.

These are my goals, it's a long list but reasonable things to do this week. Other then that I have had an amazing two days off. Not so ready to go back to work tomorrow, but that is expected. I love how my schedual works, I work 2 days and then I'm off on Wednesday, and work another day and I'm off on Friday. Payday is this Wednesday.

My car payment will need to come out of this check, as well as, my cell phone bill, and credit cards. I had a great weekend hanging out with two of my old co-workers having drinks, and today going to the Strawberry Festival today with Ryan and his life long friend Nick. Here are some photos of the fair.

 I have stories to come but it is almost 3am and I am starting to feel tired.

Wish everyone a great work week!

Into the wee wee hours

Getting home at 12:30 am 5 days a week is screwing with my internal clock Lately I have found myself staying awake until 3,4, or 5 in the morning. Today I woke up at 11 am and sprinted into the shower just to make it just in time to Haylies pre k, which is about 25 mins away because I was trying to make it fair to my ex's family members that pic her up from school too,to not get charged the first time fee of $75 for picking her up 5 minutes late. These daycares mean business.

Although the morning rush, today was an awesome beuatiful day. The warm Florida sun was shining and there was a nice wind that kept my body temp cool. It was perfect! After I picked up my pickle we drove to Ryans house. We shopped at the mall by his house, bought groceries, had a picnic at the park, and then Haylie got to play at the beautiful playground while me and Ryan talked, kissed, and snuggled in the gazebo. I love that man so much. We talked about our future, my expenses, and ate the new Goldfish smores pack. I couldn't have asked for anything more. I have pics that will be posted too. I will be taking pics this weekend since I am becoming my old socal buttetfly self. Saturday I am planning to get drinks with two buddies of mine from my last job, we were all laid off the same day, December 26th, and Sunday I am going on a double date with Ryans lifelong friend and his lady friend. Were going to The Strawberry Festival which is a big fair in Plant City.

This week is going by quick but at least I am making way through my Set It Sunday plan. Me and pickle, or mostly me, cleaned out her room today. I took apart her day bed and rearranged her furniture so there is enough room in there. I'm going to wait on buying her new bed. Ryan advised me against buying the bed from JCPenney that I posted the pic of this week. It is perfect but I could buy a bed that is cheaper. He's partly controlling my finances since I have a spending problem. Today I would have bought all the shorts I tried o

Isn't this beautiful!

The bed, which you can see here, is $199. I like the flower wall lamps, the little cubbies at the bottom left corner are nice, I'm not sure about the shelving, but I just love this photo!

I really like this bed, or at least the shelves below. You can see it here and it's from JCPenney. The rest of the room I don't really know about but this is something that I like and it's affordable, actually 50% off.

Looking forward to feed back, not sure what the usualy stuff is for a 4 year old. Got to get ready for work, haven't even walked into HB's room. :-/

Another Set it Sunday

Setting it Sunday while watching Breakfast at Tiffanys.

This week I want to accomplish a very important goal, I am going to quit smoking.

Clean the upstairs of the house and I have photos to show how bad the bedrooms are.

That's it! Just those two things.

That's it? Ha! I've been telling myself and my poor poor boyfriend that each pack is the last. He absolutely hates that I smoke and I'm glad he does. All he wants is the best for me. It's hard though, even though I have only been smoking this time for about a month. See, I have this problem, I am an on and off again smoker. I usually start by being around new people, who smoke, then I'm hooked, and usually smoke until I've either lost a job, quit a job, or once I actually quit on my own. Not sure how that happened, but I think I was trying to become active, can't ride an elliptical bike and be a smoker...who wants to huff and puff at the gym.

But I have made it my goal, publically, on this little blog that is out in the internet, anonymously...oh yes.

When I started this blog I planned it on being as closely to anonymous as possible, however, that isn't really any fun. I am mentioning this topic because of my second Set it...cleaning.

I am a slob. I am busy. That makes me a busy slob. I need to clean my daughters room and my bedroom. I took photos today while we were playing so I could post them. I am also thinking about getting rid of the crib that was turned to a day bed type thing. We need more room in there, and it doesn't get used. She sleeps in my bed, and I actually enjoy it.

Me and Ryan don't live together, we actually see each other once or maybe twice a week, and I like having someone in bed with me. It makes me feel less alone. Haylie is at her dad's half the week so it makes me feel good. We snuggle, she steals my pillow, I take most of the blanket, it works. Lol. Honestly, I would like to put in a real bed for her. Have a new space that she will like sleeping in. A bed, night stands, lamps... right now her room is just a play room, so even thought it must sound weird wanting the normal standard issue stuff in her BEDROOM, it's something new to us.

This is the mess

It's embarrasing

The table was just put in there a couple of days ago so she could do some water coloring.

But at least she has a nice view... :-(

Well actually we have the same view from our bedrooms.

But yes, I will clean the room tomorrow before work, I also found some printable chore sheets at imom.com that I will start using so Haylie can help me keep her room clean and other little things she can do. I haven't made her do a clean up time in a long time, it is way overdo.

This is the bed I want to take apart and put away.

I am looking forward to finding the right things for her room. I'm not sure yet that I am going to replace everything, but it's a good idea. I'm also not sure if I'm ready to lose my sleep buddy. It's an idea though. Ryan says I need to do it finally, but it has only happened since I left my husband, which is about 2 years..? It's a long time I know. I had her trained to go to sleep on her own from when she was little, but when we moved out my parents had a 3 bedroom place and no extra beds, so we just kind of had to sleep in the same bed. When we moved into this house which has 5 bedrooms, I did try in the very beginning, bought a night light, but it was just something I didn't have the energy to fight over.

I remember reading an article saying in parenting you need to pick your battles in order to stay sane and reduce extra anxiety.

I will take a photo of the finished product tomorrow.

Working mommy Saturdays

Bitten by the insomnia bug :-(

Insomnia, what a big jerk, right? Nobody wants it around, people make jokes about, and I'm sure no one would invite it over for dinner. I am awake, not tired. Well a little tired, I'm sick, and I guess with a little too much on the mind, I am here typing away, hoping somehow if I type my little fingers out, I will feel resolved of all issues, and fall hopelessly asleep. Insomnia is even less welcome to parents. How much does it suck feeling tired because you have been up since 4 am, (not from partying, because that isn't something that occurs anyway) and then little jack or jill awakens at 7 am sharp with a bolt of energy, I'm sure the barista at Starbucks hasn't had since she had to do a double shift.

I laid in bed for a while, hacking my lungs out because of this terrible cold I'm having and with the sudden urge I rush to the bathroom to throw up (something, anything, but nothing came out, not even flem) I got out of bed.

Today was an interesting day, I named it on my phone calender as Haylies Day! I drove and picked her up from school, which is something I can't do everyday. When she switches homes  her dads grandmother takes her to school and then I pick her up on most days unless there is a paycheck party at work. This is where they hand out the check stubs, announce who the employee of the month is, and do an inservice training about working as a team, or as this past weeks theme was, the new vacation benefits plan. Fridays my dad likes to pick her up because he is off (he has an amazing schedual, he's a community college proffesor) and he can spend some time with her and can take her somewhere to have fun. Tomorrow he is taking her to Chuck E Cheese. He gave her the choice of the zoo or C.E.C and yes, she chose the mouse. This Friday I happen to be off so I can pick her up and we can have another fun Haylie Day!

After I picked her up today we tried to handle the freezing cold at the park but that lasted less than 5 minutes, so I decided we should do something together, which is something she loves, so we both got hair cuts! It was fun, her bangs are a little too short, but these people aren't scientists or surgeons, and Nasa isn't missing them so it's ok, better her than me anyway. After the haircuts we met my boo at my house. He decided today wasn't a good day for him to play basketball with the group of men he plays with which ages range from 30 to 60, and include his best friend whose 20, so he came over and spent the day with us. We saw my doctor to check Haylie and make sure everything was ok with her cold. She has post nasal drip (possibly), so we bought kids Claritin. Hopefully this helps, and it's better than an antibiotic which my Dr. put me on. We went to eat at Pizza Hut, which is our spot to go. My boo LOVES pizza! Me and Haylie are crazy about the breadsticks and we dunk (not dip) our breadsticks into ranch dressing (the pizza too).

When we went back to my place we hung out with my brother, had italian ice (lemon), and watched Monsters vs. Aliens, good movie. So we had a fun time. After my boo left, me and Haylie watched TV and colored, and lastely Haylie had a bubble bath, and had story time. She fell asleep during the third book, which I always love. The only thing that I didn't have time for was doing her nails. I trim and paint her nails, sometimes she comes to my house with a fresh coat of nail polish on, but I think it's fun girls time, and it makes her happy. That is all I want, to have a happy (unspoiled) Haylie. I even remembered to wash my scrubs for the upcoming shifts! Woohoo! I'm doing good. I still need to desperatly clean up, but that I am doing tomorrow while she's at school. No actually, because it is almost 4 am, I will be asleep.

To divorce or not to divorce, that is the question.

I am married. I married in 2004 after learning I was pregnant and my husband at the time was entering the miltary. Well, the military thing didn't work out since he didn't make it through boot camp. We split in 2007 and have stayed legally married. The reason we have stayed married is because I was never able to find a position with affordable health benefits. Now I have. I was surprised to find out that at my new place of work I can start having benefits after 3 months. Isn't that great?

So, do I get the divorce papers ready when I have my new insurance kick in, or do I not do it just in case I get fired, laid off, or my car can't handle the drive anyway.

Sunday Sunday

Set it Sunday

Set it

This week I will spend more time on my studies and not go out with the following: Friends, my boo, family members, no one.

Blogging from my new phone!

Yay! Go me! Finally I get to have an awesome phone with internet. Who ever actually reads this blog must think it's absolutely archaic to finaly have a phone this late with internet. I totally agree, but ladies and gentlemen, I have finally arrived! Oh yes.

It's saturday night, my boo is at work and my little girl is at her dads. Guess what i'm doing? If you thought laundry you are correct. Congrats. It's also a cleaning the upstairs including the bedrooms and solo movie night. I'm not complaining, I actually like weekends like this. My work week which includes working every other weekend, is hectic enough. I just wish I could cancel my day planned with my boo tomorrow so I cab catch up on studying and homework (which I was suppose to do today but that slipped through my hands some how.

Enjoy this random saturday night cellular post!

Highlights from the week

Highlights and insights into my week. I did not have very much time this week to blog, so I am trying to post things that come to mind about the week. This is an experiement....

•  I am off this weekend!! Yay! So excited. This was a rough week at work. I was on my own without my training buddy. Left some hospital beds up too high, didn't get enough linens, or have the hospital gowns ready when needed. Was it that bad that I didn't have wash vloths in the room? No, but my training buddy was always around saying, "what, you didn't warm up the wash cloths"? Geez!Yesterday was a better day than the day before because I wasn't so rushed for time and feeling like a dump idiot that isn't competent enough to do a pretty stupid job. The thing that makes me think is why those two days were so bad. I was working alone all week and I didn't have any problems, but I was working with different residents in different rooms.

• I made a boo boo with my boo. I guess I was complaining about him with my coworkers and they basically told me to get rid of him and find a better guy. Well, one of their complaints was that he doesn't pay for stuff all the time, and doesn't take me on dates and blah blah blah. So I told my boo. Big mistake. I thought me telling him they said something about him would be better than me complaining to him again about the stuff he does that I don't like. It really upset him, and made him feel bad. And at that point I was kind of considering leaving him. (That was before our nice date this Monday.) I still feel bad about it. Its even gotten to the point where my co-workers ask me what my plans are and they ask who is going to pay or if he's going to want me to pay the tip. I guess the question is do I really mind paying the tip, or paying for my cocktail because he doesn't want to pay for it...ugh. I kind of can't stand that. I'm fine leaving a tip, but paying for a cocktail? Basically I can't have a drink when we go out because he won't splurge. I get water instead of coke, trying to make it cheaper for him... I am basically confused as hell. All I know is I love him.

• I'm dropping one of my classes. It's the one class I have on campus and the reason I am dropping it is because I slept through the first exam. It was when I first started my job. I got home after midnight from work and worked at 7am the next day so i could make it to the class on time, so then I decided to take a quick nap and slept through my class, great huh? So i will not be getting my A.A. this May. My dad is upset about it but I can just take an online class over the summer or another time since I'm planning on starting a LPN program sometime over the summer or Oct. I'm not worried about it. It's not like I'll never take one class to finish my A.A.

• I have a spending problem. In this past week I have bought a new laptop, a smartphone, a machine that finds blood pressure and pulse for you, and etc. I really do have an issue with money. I recently was able to start a savings account that I have not touched and will not touch unless its an emergency. Maybe I need to find a book at the library, NOT the bookstore, since this week I spent over $100 there, about spending. Maybe my new Personal Finance book can give me the right messege.

Ra Ra Ra, I want your love!

I ended up having a great day with my boo yesterday. It was rocky in the beginning but that was becasue my car was in the shop, getting an oil change, which evolved into new breaks, flushing two systems, and new wind shield wipers.. Anyway, I feel less worried driving 100 miles to and from work a day. (It's almost 100, maybe 40 something miles 1 way, and I get home at 12:30 am each shift.)

I planned yesterday for a day of studying and an oil change, with a dinner and movie date with my boo in the evening. In all reality, none of that happened except for the oil change. I woke up way too early than normal, so I felt like I had a hangover from lack of sleep. Before I left my house to do some running around, the car and grocery shopping my mom wanted me to do, I had my morning cigarette. I am only mentioning this cigarette because it led to more fun and excitement, that pulled me away to my important daily goals. While I was smoking, my hands were unsteady and shaking, I felt like all my blood was rushing toward my feet, and was worried about falling to the floor, since that almost happened before. So as soon as that happened I went inside and had a bowl of cereal and started to feel better.

I left the house with three goals in mind, 1. Get the oil change, 2. Get the groceries for the crazy lady, and 3. Go to one of those walk in clinics at Walgreens and CVS.

I was on a quest. I stopped at 3 different locations before I got to a store that had the clinic inside, and thats when I realized that I didn't have my insureance card...GREAT! So I drove home to get the card and call the closest Ford dealership about their prices on an oil change. So I ended up going to a CVS, waited for close to 25 mins, spent $45 on things I "needed," and didn't get any treatment because the nurse practitioner, who was very nice, said that the type of testing involved with that is something they don't do. Thankfully, she did't charge me.

So off I went to the Tires Choice and Total Car Car (who I have most of my work done by), and waited for them to come back with a long list of things accounting to $1000 that needed to be fixed. Suprisingly, they didn't and said that they recommend two flushings, breaks and power stearing. Then because I asked about the breaks, and since the two in the back were basically worn out, I had those done as well. Not bad. Everything in total was under $400.

Boo met me at the car place and we had lunch at Moe's (really good), and went to best buy to get...tada...my new laptop. I spent less money than I was planning on spending, but just found out by using skype that this laptop doesn't have a microphone...wtf? I thought that with the computer having a web cam, the microphone was there too, but I guess not. I don't have any complaints. The computer is a Dell, ice blue, 3mb RAM, and about 250 MB memory. I was planning on getting the computer with the best deal and the most amount of RAM, but I liked this one, and the price was great!

After that we went back to my house, set up the computer and watched tv. Since my moms cooking sucks we went to Publix, bought some food for dinner and relaxed.  Overall a very good day with boo. I really love him. OOOh! And I forgot about the foot rub he gave me, hehehe.

This week was a little hard on us because he's so against me smoking again, and I told him what my co-workers said about him, (wasn't good), which is such a big mistake. I really wish I hadn't have done that. The always say I should dump him and have some fun while I'm young. Find a guy with money, who can take me out all the time. I don't want stuff like that. Boo is great with my daughter, he's in college, and is always there for me. He is my absolute best friend and such a handsome, tall guy. I have my moments when I get tired of him and not being established but neither am I. I don't even have the time or the patience to be wined and dined.

Love, what is it good for?

Valentine's Day, the day for lovers, roses, jewelry, and chocolates. Me and my boyfriend (boo) have been together a little over 2 years. He is younger, he's 21 and I'm 24. We met when we were working together and became texting buddies. We went shopping together, to lunch together, would hang out after our classes together, then I realized how handsome he is and we have been  together ever since. It was a little difficult at first, when I was deciding if I should persue him, I was worried about the reaction I would get from family and friends, especially with my ex. I didn't want to be the bud of his jokes.

The age hasn't been a problem. I didn't care that he wasn't old enough to drink, that just meant I would have a DD. He's doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, and doesn't do drugs. He is funny and social, is honest and sweet. The only thing that is bothering me right now is the fact that it's Valentine's Day and I can't spend the night with him.He can't come to my house because my parents are absolutely against that since I have a younger brother and sister, who are above the age of 16, but still they do not allow it. But I don't even think I'm allowed in my boo's house... That drives me crazy. Then he told me his best friend, who is a year younger than him, is getting a hotel on the beach for him and his girlfriend. And it just sucks that we can't have any alone time. Love making time. We can't afford to move in together, and I need a baby sitter.

I don't know what to do. When we spend time together everything is nice, today I am seeing him, and I can't wait. I just worry that I am either wasting my time with him and things will not come out as we planned. We plan to have our own place, we already know what kind of pets to get, but I worry it won't ever happen.

From the very beginning he said I love you and would ask me to marry him out of nowhere, several times a week. For almost two years he would ask me when we'd go on a walk and get down on one knee and ask, with no ring. Or through a text message. On the phone, giving me a hug, and etc... but when I actually thought that maybe it's ok to be engaged for a while, he said we should wait to move in together. wtf? I was mad. Everytime he had asked me to marry him I said we had to wait to finish school. I felt lost when he said what he said. I thought as though I would be 30 before we would get married, which I guess is ok. It just frightens me. I'm my boo's first love, and sometimes I feel like I'm training him for the next person, but I guess you have to make risks in life.

I just hope everything works out. I think we complement each other. I'm bad with money and saving, and he's great and always has extra money set aside. I'm impulsive and go into distress easily, and he goes with the flow and doesn;t seem to get fazed by much. These are all qualities I like, which keep me from following the suggestions from my friends which say that I need an older man.