Valentine's Day, the day for lovers, roses, jewelry, and chocolates. Me and my boyfriend (boo) have been together a little over 2 years. He is younger, he's 21 and I'm 24. We met when we were working together and became texting buddies. We went shopping together, to lunch together, would hang out after our classes together, then I realized how handsome he is and we have been together ever since. It was a little difficult at first, when I was deciding if I should persue him, I was worried about the reaction I would get from family and friends, especially with my ex. I didn't want to be the bud of his jokes.
The age hasn't been a problem. I didn't care that he wasn't old enough to drink, that just meant I would have a DD. He's doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, and doesn't do drugs. He is funny and social, is honest and sweet. The only thing that is bothering me right now is the fact that it's Valentine's Day and I can't spend the night with him.He can't come to my house because my parents are absolutely against that since I have a younger brother and sister, who are above the age of 16, but still they do not allow it. But I don't even think I'm allowed in my boo's house... That drives me crazy. Then he told me his best friend, who is a year younger than him, is getting a hotel on the beach for him and his girlfriend. And it just sucks that we can't have any alone time. Love making time. We can't afford to move in together, and I need a baby sitter.
I don't know what to do. When we spend time together everything is nice, today I am seeing him, and I can't wait. I just worry that I am either wasting my time with him and things will not come out as we planned. We plan to have our own place, we already know what kind of pets to get, but I worry it won't ever happen.
From the very beginning he said I love you and would ask me to marry him out of nowhere, several times a week. For almost two years he would ask me when we'd go on a walk and get down on one knee and ask, with no ring. Or through a text message. On the phone, giving me a hug, and etc... but when I actually thought that maybe it's ok to be engaged for a while, he said we should wait to move in together. wtf? I was mad. Everytime he had asked me to marry him I said we had to wait to finish school. I felt lost when he said what he said. I thought as though I would be 30 before we would get married, which I guess is ok. It just frightens me. I'm my boo's first love, and sometimes I feel like I'm training him for the next person, but I guess you have to make risks in life.
I just hope everything works out. I think we complement each other. I'm bad with money and saving, and he's great and always has extra money set aside. I'm impulsive and go into distress easily, and he goes with the flow and doesn;t seem to get fazed by much. These are all qualities I like, which keep me from following the suggestions from my friends which say that I need an older man.
Age is just a number. My husband and I are six years apart, and I won't lie - there have been some challenges (like he was ready to have kids before I was, and so he was made to wait). But overall, it's really not an issue. I hope everything works out for you, hon!
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